BEAUTY WITHOUT BRAINS !!! NOT SOO ATTRACTIVE...

The secret to a good relationship is to meet the 'UngettableGirl', this is the kind of lady guys need.
I repeat Need not Want

Lets begin with an illustration of 3 women;

Woman 1 will be walking into the bar first. We will classify her as an average looking woman with a great personality. As she steps foot into our “fake” bar no one notices. No men actively pursue her and she has a fun night out with her friends.

Woman 2 is going to be walking into our bar after Woman 1. I have decided that she is going to be a beautiful woman with a bad personality. When she enters the bar she gets a lot of attention. Men will actively pursue her. Of course, with her personality her prospects of a lasting relationship are not very high.

Last but not least is woman 3. This woman is the whole package. She is has the beauty and the brains. She is going to enter the bar and get a lot of attention just like Woman 2 did. Men will pursue her continually and since her personality is great she has a good chance of establishing a lasting relationship.

The Ungettable Girl- The highest quality girl that there is. She is both beautiful (physically) and has the personality to match her beauty. This type of girl is extremely rare and not every woman can achieve the “ungettable” status.

I will be talking a lot about how looks play a role into the ungettable persona throughout this guide but for now I want to talk about how personality plays a role into the “ungettable.”

You see, society places too much emphasis on looks. I have established that men are visual creatures by nature. So, I am sure that when I explained the concept of the Ungettable girl, they assumed it meant “the prettiest girl in the bar.”

The ungettable girl is so much more than that.

Look, I am not denying that looks play a HUGE role into an ungettable girl. In fact, there are some women that cannot achieve the legendary status because they don’t have the right look but those few women that do tend to run into an even greater problem, personality.

"I can tell you that looks grab your attention but it is the personality that keeps it."

Men typically grade women’s looks on a 10 point scale. Sometime guys will be out and they will see a pretty girl walk into a bar and say something like:

“Hey, check out the 9 that just walked in.”

Your looks rating is determined within seconds of meeting a man while your personality rating could takes months to truly determine. Oh, and in case you were wondering ALL men do this UG calculation in their heads. You see, men are all striving to get that ungettable girl and are grading you to see if you meet their standards for it.

If you are wondering why your Boyfriend/ Girlfriend broke up with you. It could be your Personality not necessarily your looks. You might have scored 18 the first few months of dating- 9 for looks and 9 for personality, but as the years went by you might still look good physically but your personality has deteriorated. You no longer put in the work in your relationship, you return from work and all you want to do is eat and sleep, no time to discuss about your day, watch a movie together or just play.

So, initially you were given a 9 on the personality scale but by the end of year three of the relationship you were downgraded to a 6. This little 3 point declined dropped you from being an ungettable to just an average.

Eye opening isn’t it?

When I look at all relationships I can generally put the time of the relationship into three different categories.

The Honeymoon Period- The period right at the beginning of the relationship where your partner can do no wrong. Everything is like a dream and there are no fights at all.

The Emotional Connection Period- This is where an emotional connection is either made or not made.

The Downhill Period- The time after the emotional connection where things tend to go downhill, the couple either breaks up or if they were lucky enough to stay together throughout their relationship one person will die (gloomy huh?)

The deeper your emotional connection with your partner, the more you can look at them and get past their imperfections. This is something that is impossible to do when you are getting to know someone or meeting them for the first time.

Chris Seiter says the 3 qualities of an Ungettable Girl is

Ungettable girls are confident. It’s as simple as that.

She tends to leave you wanting more.

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What am I trying to say?

Well, its simple. work on yourself everyday. The only time you stop is when you're DEAD. 

Source: Chris Seiter 
Model: Kefilwe Mabote