FRIENDSHIP HAS ITS BENEFITS!

Kicking off a friends with benefits relationship can be a lot of liberating fun. After all, it's a hookup with no strings attached between two people who genuinely like and trust each other- without all of the responsibility or emotional drama that can come with a more serious relationship- sound ideal really, doesn't it? While it's obvious that one of the benefits is well, dun, more sex, there are some other potential ups and downs you might want to consider.

Hooking up with your hot friend might seem like a no-brainer. They're single, you're single, what's the big deal? But actually pulling off a healthy, happy friends-with-benefits arrangement might be trickier than you think. Before you get naked with a friend, take a look at these pro's and con's.

Benefits

1. No game playing

Once you have established that you are in the FWB mode, you don't need to worry about coming across as too keen or worrying about whether you ought to call them or wait for them to call you. It is a straight forward deal- You are friends who have sex, nothing more.

2. None of the other responsibilities

You don't need to meet their family and you don't even need to call them. There are times in your life when a relationship isn't what you want- perhaps you want to focus on your career, or you want to move to another city. At these times, being able to enjoy sex with someone you know and are comfortable with without string can seem like an ideal solution.

3. You can keep your eye out for someone better

There is nothing stopping you looking for a long- term lover while you are enjoying Sex with your FWB and its this aspect that makes it seem an attractive option to men in- between relationships.  If it's crystal clear that this is what you're doing, is that there really are no strings. That means you are both free to see other people and there are no obligations to even tell each other. You are left to keep looking for other partners, FWBs or whatever, while you continue to get yours.

Loss

1. You could lose your frined

A FWB situation puts your friendship at risk. Even when we have no intention of letting it get messy, sex has a tendency to muddle your feelings. It's partly physiological as hormones are released during sex that makes you bond with them and them with you on an emotional level. We are programmed by society and movies to connect sex with love. That puts you in a position where you are far more likely to get emotionally involved, even when you don't plan to an if they don't feel the same way, it will put a huge strain on your friendship.

2. None of the other benefits

If you want a date to take to your friends wedding, your FWB is definitely not the ideal person. If you want someone's shoulder to cry on when you've had a bad day, or if you just want to snuggle up on the sofa and watch movies, your FWB is not that person.

Get my drift!

3. You will get dropped like a sack of hot potatoes when they find someone better

While your roving eye is assessing your other options, they are also likely to be checking out any available potential lovers as well. That means you will lose your FWB when they find someone they'd like to be committed to. Depending on how long a FWB situation goes on, this can come as quite a blow to the ego. However, much you tell yourself it's nothing more than sex with two friends, there are still egos at stake. You might find yourself  wondering what the other person has that you don't, even if you want your FWB long- term. That won't be good for your confidence.

My advice do not have them cos women always get attached to the guys and then the men are the ones who initiate these benefits. 

P.S: You've been warned.

Source: Cosmopolitan